Last month, I turned 21. I know what you're thinking - if you're 2+ years older than me, you're thinking about how young I am, and how I have so much to learn ahead of me and maybe (if you're more than 2+ years my senior) how I'm part of a rotten generation who only cares about posting pictures of artisanal donuts to The Facebook and complaining about our unpaid internships. Well, there is some truth to most of that. (We can talk about the millennial issues later 😉) I know I am young, but when I was younger, 21 seemed SO adult. Now that I am 21, I feel like just yesterday I was a little girl watching Lizzie McGuire, thinking I was going to get in trouble because Lizzie was picking out her first training bra and that was a BIG, GROWN-UP deal. I'm graduating college in a year and a half, and I feel like just last summer I was eating Taco Bell Cinnabon Delights in my car the night before my high school graduation. Honestly, that's probably because just last summer I was eating Taco Bell Cinnabon Delights in my car, it just wasn't the night before my high school graduation. (Regardless, you get the idea.)
I know the whole "I'm 21 and I know everything" deal. I see it reflected in people my age everyday, sometimes myself included. But if there's anything I've learned in 21 years, it's that you never really truly know everything, and pretending that you do won't get you anywhere. I'm excited to grow older and learn things that I couldn't possibly begin to understand now. I don't necessarily think I'm super qualified to be giving advice, but there are a few things I've picked up on over the years. Here's a few lessons (some serious, some silly) that I've learned over my time on this planet. ☺️
21. A wise woman once proclaimed "Nobody's perfect. I gotta work it." The wise woman was Miley Cyrus as Hannah Montana and she definitely wasn't the first one to say it, but it sure is true.
20. Karma is real. It might take a minute to kick in, but oh boy, when it does, it's good.
19. Don't go to bed angry!! (Says every married couple that's been together for any decent amount of time. Life is too short to wake up the next morning worried about yesterday.)
18. It's OK to watch The Bachelor. Or Keeping Up, or Real Housewives, or any other terrible television show you acknowledge as your guilty pleasure. It's good to give your brain a break.
17. You'll never regret calling home, even just to say hi.
16. "Work hard. Know your shit. Show your shit." -Mindy Kaling
15. Adult friendships can be a lot of work to maintain, but totally worth the effort.
14. What's meant to be will be.
13. Say I love you. It's never a bad thing to remind someone of, and it feels good.
12. Some days I amaze myself...and other days I leave my cell phone in the refrigerator. And like, it's okay. We're all works in progress.
11. "Supporting another's success won't ever dampen yours." God, why is this one so hard! It's so so so easy to get jealous, especially in the competitive worlds I'm involved in - acting, comedy and blogging. Everyone has their own journey! I can't stress just because some people had their first Oscar or bestselling book or Nobel Peace Prize by my age. Everyone. Has. Their. Own. Journey.
10. Buying a set of pajamas to replace the old sweatshirt you usually sleep in has been proven to make you feel like your life is 78% more together on average. (Okay, maybe not scientifically but like, I feel more together.)
9. Trust that when the answer is no, there’s a better yes coming down the road. Hearing no can really suck. But it always works out in the end.
8. It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission - take that how you will. 😉
7. "You are exactly where you need to be." I learned this in a SoulCycle class and it has really resonated with me and my tendency to ALWAYS feel like I'm behind.
6. Be the kind of person that actually drinks enough water everyday. Do those people actually exist? Not sure. BE ONE.
5. There is always something to be thankful for. Find it.
4. You are responsible for your own happiness.
3. Instagram isn't real life, people aren't perfect, no one actually loves those gummy bear hair vitamins (do they?) Put your phone down and live a little - comparison is the thief of joy.
2. "Why the f*ck not me? should be your motto." (Another piece of advice from my girl Mindy K 💖)
1. Eat the donut. Buy the throw pillow. Start the blog. Do the things you want to do to make yourself happy. In 10 years, the extra 200 calories or $25 you spent at Target aren't going to make a difference.